Advice is not control — as Rabbi Landau teaches it

By Rabbi Shalom Landau.

Rabbi Landau teaches that someone asking for advice is asking for help thinking, not for another person to take the decision over. Rabbi Landau teaches that this is where good advice turns into control: a son asks about a raise, and a parent grabs the phone and writes the message. Wisdom, in the verse he quotes, is drawing counsel up out of the other person's own heart, not forcing your answer into their life.