A gift is not a hidden contract — as Rabbi Landau teaches it
By Rabbi Shalom Landau.
Rabbi Landau teaches that A gift says you owe me nothing. A deal says both people know the terms. Rabbi Landau teaches that the trouble starts when generosity comes with a contract the other person did not know they had signed. Say what you need before you give. Do not turn kindness into hidden debt.
Source verses
הַגִּידָה לִּי מַה מַּשְׂכֻּרְתֶּךָ
Quoted from the captions of the teachings below.
The takeaway
Say the terms before you give. Kindness with a secret invoice is not a gift.