Marriage and the steering wheel — as Rabbi Landau teaches it

By Rabbi Shalom Landau.

Rabbi Landau teaches that two things about marriage that belong together. Responsibility — someone depending on you, a home to build — can pull out an ambition that comfort never will, and the blessing sometimes comes after that responsibility rather than before it. And the charge "you're controlling me" can mean "you're not doing what I want." Two people can fight for the steering wheel while each claims they only want freedom. We see the other person's fault more easily than our own.