Why does honoring your wife bring wealth?

Rabbi Landau explains the saying of our sages, that a man who gives to his wife and honors her will become rich, by asking how it works. When your wife asks you for something, “your wife is manifesting that you’re going to give her something. She’s manifesting it in real life.”

The husband, meanwhile, “is starting to think logically, how can I cover it? How can I not cover it?” His calculations shrink the picture. But when he honors his wife more than he thinks he has, “you’re going into her manifestation.”

Her trust in him, he teaches, is what opens the gates of bracha. When a husband steps into her emunah instead of measuring it against his own logic, that is when Hashem steps in for him.

Going deeper: Rabbi Landau's teaching, level by level

Surface claim

A man who honors and gives to his wife becomes rich.

Fear, vulnerability, or tension

The husband thinks logically about whether he can cover what she asks for.

What may be behind it

In A Soul at Peace, Rabbi Landau writes that when a wife asks with simple trust, she is creating a vessel wider than what the home holds right now, and honoring her widens the channel for blessing.

Deepest human truth

Her trust in him and his trust in Hashem work together. Stepping into her trust is what brings Hashem’s help.

More questions from this teaching

• Should I tell my wife “Hashem will help” when she asks me for money?